Relationship advice that is as simple as powerful

If you are looking for relationship advice, you came to the place where you can find a lot of unexpected information about relationships, love, and sex.

Relationships are the most essential part of our life. We have relationships not just with people around us, but our jobs, society, and mostly ourselves.

We jump into relationships with enthusiasm, sometimes giving all that we have emotionally and otherwise, forgetting for a while who we really are, but loving the idea of ourselves in regards the quality of our relationship. At that moment we rarely think that we might need relationship advice later on. Why most, even very solid relationships don’t feel fulfilling and harmonious? Why there is always some sort of conflict within relationships and us?

Battle of Sexes

As soon as you grasp the idea that you are Spirit, you must understand that in Spiritual world there is no gender. We all have experienced both form of physical being to play with - the male (active) and female (receptive) sides of our nature - to bring them into balance. We don’t consciously and fully understand our Divine nature, that’s why, instead of uniting our own inner God and Goddess we are chasing them in the outer world.

A man, feeling lack of Divine Feminine, is looking for Goddess; a woman is trying to find God, Divine masculine, she thinks she has lost. So, all our relationships bring us to finding that balance through expression of feminine and masculine forms.

Man always desires to obtain Goddess, he chases her, pleases her, doing whatever woman wants him to do, as long as he is receiving attention, respect, sex…and as he thinks- love. I always wonder how a strong, successful man who knows how to take responsibilities and make decisions in his business and social life, becomes totally powerless in the hands of his partner. He lets her to take over him in every aspect of their relationships- money management, vacation planning, raising kids, their lifestyle, and sex routine. He trusts her blindly and unquestionably. Here is a little life observation – every restaurant and hotel worker who often relies on receiving “extra” money in form of gratuitous knows that a man usually tips generously when he is alone, but the same person in presence of his life partner gives less , or nothing at all. Does it tell you anything? He has found Goddess and she rules his life now.

The same story with a woman… Feeling lacking, unbalanced in her masculine nature she is trying to obtain that power, confidence engaging into controlling, manipulative, and unreasonable behaviour, or… she can give herself away to abusing relationships to feel loved and have that ”dream man” besides her. By the way, in case of breaking down relationships, people usually blame a woman. It’s considered that a woman is “supposed” to bring love, passion, wisdom, healthy emotions into relationships, and to be a keeper of peace no matter what. Man is not allowed to show his sensual, feminine nature; and he’s usually ashamed of his feelings –he’s a provider of material comfort without any emotions involved.

Karmic Relationships

Lifetime after lifetime we are brought into situation and to the people who will assist us to clear our karma- to balancing and healing our “dark side” , our masculine and feminine, healing bodies, emotion traumas. Karmic relationships can be very strong and painful. We can release our karma simply by forgiving ourselves and others, realizing who you are, expressing yourself and accepting the fact that everything is happening for experience itself and soul growth.

Fear and Love

In our world of forms we try so hard not to remember who we truly are; we put so much efforts and struggle into our lives – we create by means of mental power and control. We have forgotten that Universes, stars, elements, and human beings – everything is created with the spark of Love, through Love, by Love, for Love - this is love force/ sexual energy of creation. There is nothing else but Pure Love and Oneness – All that is. To find that truth we play the game of “un-love” here. We feel abandoned by God, punished for something, we feel unloved and we believe that we are unworthy and don’t deserve Love. As a result we don’t love ourselves. That’s where all our problems begin...

Those patterns –“unworthy, unloved”, and many others that stored in our sub-conscious mind from past lives, our parents, school, public opinion, religious and social dogmas - people carry into their relationships where control and fear is driving force that brings people together.

Instead of looking inside of ourselves for the Power to create our world, we’re stealing, draining energy from each other; begging for love instead of giving our love; we demand rather then ask and accept – endless love, undivided attention, full commitment, endless respect- no wonder that we feel trapped and uneasy; relationships become strained. Most relationships are based on fear - we’re so afraid to be alone and feel lonely, that we settle to someone who is willing to spare us little attention, or we try to meet social and cultural standards to have family, or at least to be in relationships, otherwise you may be judged.

We keep staying in unfulfilling relationships for the same reason –fear, but we veil it, making reasonable excuses – “we have been together 10-20-30 years; kids need family; we have some shared assets/debts; my family never accept our separation; in my culture family is very important”. We often put others ahead of ourselves, saying, “Because I love her/him, I don’t want to hurt her/him”, but meaning, “I need to feel loved, secure”. Unfortunately, we rarely choose true love over being loved, receive love rather than give it. It seems that everyone is looking for a person who can make one happy.

Relationships Types

Dependence, Co-dependence Relationships

In this kind of relationships sex and power are often painfully mixed up – partners often confuse master/slave roles they play in relationship with love. From the very beginning they are agreed on dysfunctional, co-dependence relationships; no matter what “love story” they have behind their relationships – their love is based on conditions, unconscious agreements with each other – You will be a good husband, I will raise kids, run the house; I will work hard for us, you will give me sexual pleasure and have to support me in my tough days; we will take care of you and support financially you will love us, obey, and behave good. From the very beginning most relationships are created on the powerless position- to maintain a secure felling to be loved and worthy, and to survive in society.

Partners become dependent on each other for money, emotional support, parenting, sex. Though their sexual life can be very comfortable in their sexual styles, but it’s very often limited by old style gender and very much impacted by their financial, social and physical states.

Relationship advice – one must learn to take care of oneself and build one’s personal boundaries, rather than always catering to the need of one’s partner.

Think…Do you want to take those huge responsibilities – to fulfill, satisfy, please somebody, to provide everything that one needs and desires? I’m not choosing to be lost into somebody else. Actually I’m here not to be lost but to find myself, to know myself. This is your job –to make yourself happy, to heal yourself- I’ll do my own.

How to achieve this? If you recognize you true Divine nature, you know- God within you; you love yourself as much as you love God and God loves you; and you accept everyone’s Divinity; then you don’t demand Love- you love yourself enough not to settle for less and you don’t give yourself away- you generously gift yourself to a person who can accept and appreciate who you are. So, what do you prefer ownership or partnership?

Partnerships

Equal partnership is a “product” of our modern society based on two independent people coming together. They support each other emotionally and financially, share responsibilities equally. They plan, discuss, negotiate, and divide their household duties, parenting and financial matters. It seems to be smart, fare, balanced relationships by conscious choice. But those relationships remind me a business agreement with a lack of true intimacy.

Over time Partnership loses its aliveness, playfulness, passion. The inner sexual fire begins to dim. Partners don’t express their inner sexual essence in full trying to maintain a balance. There is a sense of incompleteness, earning for adventures, passion, true communication and intimacy.

Relationships advice - developing your wiliness to give more love and gratitude to your partner; abilities to express your sexual essence without any boundaries.

Intimate Relationships

If you have grown beyond common “human” relationships, you are no longer cautious about giving satisfaction to your intimate partner. In some moments you might beg for love; in other moments you might aggressively ravish your partner in love; at other times your loving is gentle and sweet. No matter how you express yourself, you are gifting your partner with your free love, flowing directly from your sexual essence without fear or doubt.

You live in a constant state of love. In Intimate Relationships you learn that love is something you do, not something you fall into or out of. Love is something that you practice, the same as you would sports, a musical instrument or anything you want to be good at. Love is not something you happen to feel or not feel. If you are waiting to feel love, in passionate sex or safe conversation, you are making a mistake. Love is an action that you do--and when you do it, you feel it. Love is an action you can practice.

In True Intimacy you learn to practice loving, even when you feel hurt, rejected or resistant. First you practice love, and then your core sexual essence blooms naturally. You become to be in love with yourself, your partner and life itself.

Relationship advice

You are never able “to fix” relationships but you can “fix” yourself.

Piece of mind… If you are in relationships that are not satisfying but you try to keep them peaceful and don’t go deep into issues to avoid conflict and confrontation within relationships, you are denying yourself. There is a part of you that doesn’t love yourself and it will bring the conflict up to resolve your issues. Love that is within you is always searching the way to reveal itself, to open you to you. If you don’t recognize your truth about yourself, don’t face your fears, or whatever is behind, the conflict will arise sooner, or later.

Let’s say, you are aware and conscious about your relationships (otherwise you would not look for relationship advice but keep playing personal dramas blindly) and want to make your relationships work, then a good advice…

Open your heart to your partner, open your feelings, your deepest thoughts, let love flow into your relationships, don’t wait that your partner gives you his/her love back. Love unconditionally, accept, and forgive, no matter what the other person has done to you. You cannot change anyone, but you can change yourself and you can inspire change in other, but only through healing yourself.

Don’t be afraid to be intimate, vulnerable, to be hurt. Don’t take things too personally – the other is just living her/his life. Their behaviour doesn’t meet your needs, expectations – that has nothing to do with you, so being ”hurt” by their actions is actually your “problem” and is not her/his fault. In close relationships we usually become very attentive, the other person becomes the center of our life, and the small events can bring up hidden hurts - we pay attention to everything what our partner has done, or not done- unwashed dishes, rude jokes, massy room, evening spent with his buddies in the bar, his/her bad habits…- everything can turn into big issues. Opening to love and seeing things through the eyes of your heart will bring freedom and joy in your relationships.

Yes, your partner is unconscious about his/her “programming” and plays personal dramas, still learns lessons- but, you don’t – so, never ever withdraw love from your relationships. This is a hard work - you are fighting with your ego and fears, and you need to heal yourself- but you will lose nothing; you will get your Power back, your true Freedom – being what you are.

…or, you may find yourself in different situation…when you realize, you have to leave the person.

You cannot demand from your beloved one much intimacy and soulful connection if your partner is staying in survival mode and Dependence Relationship is all what he/she knows and wants to know.

Some people need to be left to live their experiences and lessons. If someone has inability to love, and allow fear and control rule their lives, they put limitations on you, too. They struggle to control their lives, others, situations; by this, they keep love away because of feeling of unworthiness. They are controlling you by not allowing your love. In these relationships, though you know that you love them, you feel like your expression is being limited, your love is not able to be received. You know you deserve more than they are giving, as they limit the love they give – they just don’t know how else to be.

You cannot settle for less. If there are people in your life who don’t recognize your magnificence, do not recognize theirs , refuse to love themselves, refuse your assistance, release them from your life- you are not abandoning them, you just leaving them to their experiences. It’s not time for them yet. This may be terribly heartbreaking decision – you love them so much, you know how loving they really are, you see that beautiful spark of soul in their eyes they show to you from time to time. You may wait for them a little bit more, and more, and more…but there will come time to you to move on.

This is my opinion, you follow your knowing. Deep inside you know what is best to do. If you really honest with yourself; truly know how to love, you recognize your fears, you sure know what to do -you just know.

Life is such an unpredictable thing, nothing is written into the stone – we meet people, we leave people, situations; we make friends, we lose friends, jobs; we win, we fail, we rise up again- this is a beauty of life. If you believe in yourself and love yourself enough- you go with the flow of life without any worries; you trust your inner guide; you open to opportunities life gives to you in abundance, and you live with the joyful feeling that something good is about to happen yet.

So, what do we have? - Sub-conscious mind plays tricks, our “small“ personalities that don’t recognize our “grand ” Divinity, karmic bonds, unbalanced masculine and feminine aspects that always in conflict – What a mess! Maybe better not to engage into any relationships? Some people do exactly this – no relationships, no problems; by denying yourself you will not find your truth ever. We need all of our experiences- family, friends, children, joy, fun; we need this affection, interaction, heartache, we like to flirt and play with our sexuality. That’s what means to be a human. Through relationships with people we experience more of ourselves. Every relationship enriches us.

Looking back at my life, I realize that I would not be what I’ m right now without all of those interactions with people I have met along the road. Every of my relationships romantic or otherwise, with pleasant memories or otherwise, brought to me some valuable knowledge, understanding of life and myself - they have made me.

What do I know about relationships? – I know that I don’t want relationships to be worked on…

To me, relationships must start with that wonderful “Yes” of lust and magnetic attraction, admiration in the eyes and “butterflies” in the stomach, and then …to open-hearted relationships, true intimacy where you don’t hide anything, allowing one to be vulnerable, and surprisingly, all of your fears vanished; in complete honesty, trust, consciousness and true communication, where you say your truth and listen to others in compassion and respect; you bring out the best in each other.

You honour and respect each other as individuals, partners, true friends, lovers; you are both free and yet so much together. You accept each other as you are, not trying to change one bit of other; you share your experiences, thoughts, and opinions without trying to make other to believe you.

Is it possible? – Yes -if you are brave enough to step over your fears to get hurt, to be humiliated to know your truth and to speak your truth, when you are willing to give love not expecting to get something in return; if you are mature enough to work… not on your relationships but on yourself; if you choose to live from your passion and creativity, with a highest level of awareness; if you recognize your differences and celebrate your sexualities without any guilt and shame.

I believe that relationships are not responsibilities, habits, lessons but fun, adventure, creative force for growth, free expression of Divine Passion and Love. Unfortunately, not too many people experience this new type of relationships. Most people make their relationships more important than knowing the Truth; they’d rather maintain each other to feel loved and needed than connect to each other through hearts.

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